The body has a warning mechanism: pain. When you feel pain and you’re
doing physical exercise, you’ve either reached your limit in a good way,
or you’ve hurt yourself. You’ll rest, or see a physio. If you feel pain
and you’ve been doing nothing, you’re likely to see a doctor.
Machines have a warning mechanism: they slow down, start making a terrible noise, or they simply stop working. If you fancy yourself as a handyman you’ll try to fix it yourself – until you realize that most modern machines, especially cars, require specialists who come armed with computers that they plug into the machine in order to diagnose the problem.
Your life has a warning mechanism: frustration. When you constantly feel frustrated in one or more areas of your life, there is an unmet desire in that area and either you don’t know how to fulfill that desire, or you lack the willingness to – or to meet it would conflict with some of your values and so you talk yourself out of it.
A desire exists only for something that you have the potential to fulfill, so your desires are valuable indicators of where you should be going, what you should be doing in order to lead a fulfilling and satisfying life. This inner desire may conflict with your outer reality. Wanting to grow flowers may not go down well with your wife or your colleagues at the office, for example. Wanting to start your own company and eventually buy the one you work for might get you laughed at for being a megalomaniac. Still, it wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t possible and if it wasn’t right for you in some way.
Life pulls you towards your desires the way a river pulls a boat towards the sea. If you resist, you will experience life as a struggle; you will experience unhappiness, and frustration. Long-term frustration leads to depression and low energy levels. It’s a downward spiral.
A good coach will enable you to see clearly what’s blocking you from moving forward. It will be your decision whether to move past that obstacle. The coach will support you to create your solution and will hold you accountable – like having a gym buddy – until you’ve achieved it.
Do you need a coach? Do any of the following sentences describe you?
- I experience being frustrated at least once a day.
- I often wish I had someone else’s life.
- I get jealous when I hear of other people’s success.
- I often wonder, ‘Why them and not me?’
- I get anxious or angry when things don’t go my way.
- I am often grumpy with my family, colleagues.
- When I get angry I can’t stop myself.
- I find myself acting spitefully sometimes.
- I sometimes make decisions and then do something other than what I’ve decided.
- I spend a lot of time thinking things that I could never say.
- I have heaps of to-do lists and they just get longer and longer.
- I sigh a lot.
- I’m depressed.
- I often think, ‘What’s the point?’
- I’m suicidal.
- I drink too much.
- I eat too much.
- I don’t exercise enough.
- I often make commitments that I don’t follow through with.
- I avoid making commitments.
If you answered yes to any number of the statements above, it’s a sign that you’re blocked in some area, that you’re feeling frustrated and that your life is in need of a service! In other words, yes, you could do with a coach!
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